While we date different people, selecting ‘the one’ can be quite a daunting task. People often delay settling down because of doubts regarding their partner and the relationship. Here are the three factors that influence people choosing their better halves for life!
1. Kissing Helps Us In Choosing Our Partners
Yes! As superficial as it may sound, kissing is an excellent way to decipher your relationship with your partner. A study conducted by researchers Rafael Wlodarski and Professor Robin Dunbar in 2003, talks about how kissing helps us evaluate potential partners. The researchers asked 900 adults to answer an online questionnaire about the importance of kissing in both short-term and long-term relationships. Through this survey, it was seen that kissing helps to assess potential mates. 'Mate choice and courtship in humans is complex. It involves a series of periods of assessments where people ask themselves, "Shall I carry on deeper into this relationship?"’ Professor Robin Dunbar was quoted as saying on the official website of Oxford University. The researchers concluded that initial attraction may include facial, body and social cues. But assessments become more intimate as we go deeper into the relationship and kissing is a big part of this.
2. Similar Looks Help Us Come Closer
Do opposites really attract? Not really, according to this study published in the July 2010 issue of Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. The study reveals that we are attracted to people who look like us or our parents. During the study the subjects were shown either pictures of their own opposite-sex parents or pictures of a stranger before showing them a target picture of a potential partner. It was seen that subjects exposed to a short glimpse of their parent before being exposed to the target picture assigned higher ratings of attractiveness to the person in the target picture. In the next part of the study, some of the target pictures were morphed by the subjects’ picture, while the rest were morphed by that of strangers. When the subjects had to pick the more attractive picture, they picked those which were a mix of the target and themselves. So, if you are dating someone and you feel that she bears a resemblance to you, don’t get creeped out. You never know, she might be the one!
3. The Whole Package
If you thought that your well-chiselled abs and perfect smile are going to make her want to marry you, you are wrong. In fact, there are so many unexpected features that can attract a woman. A study conducted by the researchers at the University of Texas claims that beautiful women want it all when it comes to picking a partner. According to the study, women also look at the status of their partner and see if he can provide for them among other factors. In fact, the prettier the woman, the more she wants in her man! In fact, this phenomenon works both ways. Researchers studied 107 couples, who had been married for less than a year to see what men and women wanted in a relationship. "Physical attractiveness is a more important component of women's mate value than of men's. Status, economic prospects and other attributes linked with resource acquisition are more important components of men's than of women's mate value. So, this leads to the prediction that men high in status and resources will elevate their standards, just as physically attractive women elevate their standards," lead author David Buss said in a statement.
So, the next time you come home from a date make sure to keep track of these factors before fixing the next one!