Why Men Avoid Relationships, As Revealed By Science

A recent study suggests that singlehood is more of a compulsion than a choice for most men.

Every single man seems to have a satisfactory explanation for his relationship status.The usual responses to the question “Why are you still single?” include not meeting the right person, not having the time and lack of confidence among others. However, researchers at the University of Nicosia in Cyprus decided to delve deeper to tackle this question by turning to the place where one can find the most single men at a time—the internet.

The Research

Reddit was the source from which the scientists selected their participants. In fact, the whole study stemmed from an anonymous post on the site that asked “Guys, why are you single?”. The answers to the post proved so insightful that the scientists conducted a scientific analysis of all the answers and published their study in Evolutionary Psychological Science on August 8, 2018.

The Findings

The post in question received 13,429 comments of which 6,794 were analysed by the researchers. The responses were then coded and classified into 43 categories that disclosed the reason for a male participant’s singlehood. Here are the top 10 reasons.

1. Poor Looks

2. Low Self-Esteem/Confidence

3. Low Effort

4. Not Interested In Relationships

5. Poor Flirting Skills

6. Introverted

7. Recently Broken Up

8. Bad Experiences From Previous Relationships

9. No Women Available

10. Overweight

Their findings seem to indicate that although there were some who were single by choice, most of the respondents were single not for a lack of trying but due to what they described as undesirable physical and personality traits.

The Possible Reasons

In a statement, lead author Menelaos Apostolou cited arranged marriage as a possible reason for this predicament shared by men worldwide. “Single modern men often lack flirting skills because in an ancestral pre-industrial context, the selection pressures on mechanisms which regulated mating effort and choosiness were weak,” he explained. “Such skills are needed today, because in post-industrial societies mate choice is not regulated or forced, but people have to instead find mates on their own.”

While looks counted for less in earlier times, it seems the fact that good looks and a good personality are basic prerequisites for a prospective mate is taking a toll on the men of today!

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